"There's no such thing as a perfect life. As you live, unexpected accidents occur, and irreversible mistakes are made. However, every time we fall and get hurt in life, we find ourselves always changing for the better. Only by learning about the pain of others, can we mature bit by bit.
Could that be where love starts? Even though we may make mistakes and fail again, we will continue to grow and try."
This is the dialogue in the last episode of "Emergency Couple", just right before the drama ends [Subtitles from Dramago.com]. In the medical way of seeing, it seems to suggest how our life is unpredictable and there's only limited control over it. One moment we may be chatting with someone dear to us, and the next moment we may be gone due to an illness or injured due to an accident. But the key to living our lives, is to learn how to stand back up again. We learn and we change. As doctors, by understanding how their patients are hurting may also help them to grow.
Does love work the same way?
Yes. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. As we progress as a couple together, unexpected conflicts and disagreement will occur. Unintended words or actions of hurt to the other party may result. The harm is done even after we regret or apologize later. These are the irreversible mistakes made. Yet, through these bad experiences and mistakes, we learn. As the ones who got injured in the process, we learn to forgive and let go. The wounds will heal with time. As the ones who inflicted the pain, we learn to control our emotions and think deeper before anything is done. We change, to love better. By understanding how the other party might hurt, we learn to reduce the overall damage or even totally avoiding it. In turn, it will help the relationship to grow stronger.
In the show, Jin Hee and Chang Min were married when they were younger. Within a year, they got divorced because they could'nt stand each other anymore. 6 years later, they met each other during an internship, in the same hospital, and in the same department. They kept their divorce news a secret from others in the hospital because divorce is negatively thought of. But others knew in the end. Through the time spent together, Chang Min and Jin Hee felt that they still had feelings for each other. Families disagree to them getting back together because they have already made a mistake of being together once. Furthermore, Jin Hee was afraid that the relationship would end again.
In the plot, we can see how people were placing judgement on them because they were divorced. If they decided to get back together, why divorced in the first place? However, we often fail to see how circumstances and people can change. Jin Hee became a doctor just like Chang Min after they broke up. If it was'nt for the divorce, she probably would'nt have upgraded herself [She wanted to be a doctor so she can know the feeling of being one, how great that status can be that people despised her in the past for ruining the future of Chang Min]. After they worked in the same field together, they communicated more and understood each other better. They realized that they may be able to be together again. Furthermore, they were young and possibly reckless when they got married. They did'nt bother to find out more about each other when disagreements arise. They just thought they were incompatible. But 6 years later, they found each other again. They are destined to be together.
Well, I may be immersed in my own fictional land, but these things do happen. Couples get together and break up. Couples divorce and get back together. But we should'nt be quick to judge since we don't know their story. There's no right or wrong in relationships. It's just a matter of making choices.
My choice, 3 years ago, may not be the best decision. But now, both of us have learnt to communicate, to compromise and to make effort in keeping our relationship strong. People will judge me, and I know they are. I don't care. Without that obstacle, we would'nt be what we are now. I am only truly thankful that he did'nt give up on me.. even when I did.
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